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When we make a decision to change something about ourselves it is not uncommon to get impatient very quickly. Why not? When we decide to do something different we obviously think it is good for us, so we just want to do it! But the process between setting an intention, taking the initiative, and looking for desired outcomes can be overwhelming. At times to the point where we begin to doubt our decision, or begin to think that we are not capable of doing it. We may even start to feel like a failure, or use words like "I can't..." or I'm not good at..." or "I can't be bothered to..." Maybe even give up? We are only human after all. For human beings seeing is believing and we are conditioned to be result-driven since we were little human beings :)
Change is not easy. It is not supposed to be. Mainly because we are working on changing ourselves on so many levels to sustain desired outcomes. Replacing old patterns that served us, practicing a new way we have no connection with, accommodating a new feeling, working on maintaining the new way, preventing setbacks or reverting to the good old comfortable ways. For example, when you decide to quit smoking, or lose weight, or start exercising, or establish a morning routine, or ________ (fill in your own gap), think about what you have to give up? How does the existing way serve you right now? Where does your comfort lie emotionally, physically, psychologically? What discomforts accompany the new?
The secret to accomplishing goals is to focus on baby steps leading up to your goal. Just like you did when you were a little human being. Your super goal was to walk. So you began to move your limbs and find them first, then when they were strong enough you rolled over, held your neck high, then your body, then began to crawl, stand up, and then walk/run (or whatever order you took you know what I'm saying). I am sure you didn't start running before you started standing ;) Be patient with yourself and focus on your little steps that will carry through the next steps.
How do I change my life?
One step at a time.